When mothers neglect their self-care, the consequences can be significant. As they prioritise their family’s needs over their own, they risk both immediate and long-term consequences on their physical and mental health. This blog explores these impacts, particularly focusing on mothers who have recently given birth and are navigating the demands of raising more than one child.
The impact of neglecting self-care
After childbirth, mothers experience heightened stress, lack of sleep, and the physical toll of recovering from pregnancy and delivery. During this time, engaging in self-care can make a significant difference. Physical activities, healthy eating, and adequate rest are essential for maintaining energy and mood stability, but new mothers often struggle to incorporate these into their routine.
Ignoring self-care can result in an increased risk of postnatal depression and anxiety. Research from the Raising Children Network highlights that around one in six mothers in Australia experience postnatal depression, which can negatively impact their ability to care for their children and themselves (Better Health Channel)(Raising Children Network). Common symptoms include irritability, fatigue, and feelings of hopelessness, all of which can compound when self-care is neglected.
Furthermore, the mental health benefits of regular self-care cannot be overstated. Emerging Minds Australia points out that self-compassion and small acts of self-care can help parents feel more capable and confident in their roles, which in turn helps mitigate the risk of depression (Emerging Minds).
Long-term consequences: A vicious cycle
Beyond the immediate effects, neglecting self-care can lead to long-term habits where self-neglect becomes normalised. For many mothers, the pattern of putting everyone else’s needs first becomes so deeply ingrained that they stop recognising their own needs altogether. This can lead to a dangerous cycle where they overlook symptoms of physical health issues or mental burnout simply because they’re not accustomed to prioritising themselves.
Not prioritising self-care over time can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and even physical health problems such as hypertension and cardiovascular issues. Better Health Victoria states that without self-care, mothers may feel drained, overwhelmed, and less capable of managing family and work demands (Better Health Channel). Long-term mental health risks also include anxiety disorders and even more severe depression, which can have lasting impacts on the quality of life.
A consistent lack of self-care may lead to feelings of resentment or frustration, which can subtly affect relationships with family members. Mothers who consistently deprioritise themselves may also unintentionally pass on these habits to their children. Modelling self-care is crucial for teaching children the importance of well-being, as they tend to adopt similar behaviours from their parents (Centre for Human Potential)(Naternal Vitamins).
Overcoming barriers to self-are
Many mothers cite time constraints and guilt as primary reasons for not taking time for themselves. The notion of the “perfect mother” who is endlessly selfless can be deeply ingrained, making it difficult to take even short breaks without feeling guilty. However, small, manageable acts of self-care, like reading a book, going for a walk, or spending time with friends, can make a big difference.
Support networks are essential in this regard. Building a community of other mothers, family members, or friends who can help relieve some of the daily stressors can make self-care more accessible. Organisations like Beyond Blue and the Raising Children Network provide valuable resources for mothers to connect with mental health professionals and parenting support groups to help alleviate some of the burdens (Better Health Channel)(Raising Children Network).
Making self-care part of your daily routine
While it may seem daunting, integrating self-care into daily routines doesn’t have to be time-consuming. Small acts, like ensuring proper hydration, consuming a balanced diet, and engaging in light exercise, can significantly improve energy levels and mental clarity. Naturopath resources emphasise the benefits of nutrition, stating that a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains can aid in physical recovery and boost energy (Naternal Vitamins).
Mental health practices like mindfulness and meditation are also beneficial. Setting aside even a few minutes each day to focus on breathing or reflecting on positive moments can contribute to a more balanced state of mind. As Raising Children Network suggests, relaxation exercises and social interactions are powerful tools for managing stress and maintaining emotional resilience (Raising Children Network).
Self-care as a lifelong practice
As mothers continue their parenting journey, it’s vital to remember that self-care is not just a luxury—it’s a necessity. Regular self-care allows mothers to stay connected with their own needs and enhances their ability to provide for their family. As habits form, even the smallest acts of self-care can transform into a lifelong practice that improves overall well-being.
In Australia, various resources are available for mothers looking to incorporate self-care into their lives. From mental health services to parenting support groups, mothers are encouraged to seek help whenever they need it, without guilt or hesitation. Organisations like PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia) and Beyond Blue provide resources and hotlines for mothers needing emotional and mental support (Better Health Channel).
By prioritising your own health, you not only invest in your own future but also set a positive example for their children. It’s never too late to start incorporating self-care into daily routines, and every small step counts towards a healthier, happier family life.
References:
Better Health Victoria, "Self-care and support for parents and caregivers," Better Health Channel
Raising Children Network, "Looking after yourself as a parent," Raising Children Network
Emerging Minds Australia, "Parental self-care and self-compassion," Emerging Minds
CFHP, "How and why do mothers need to take care of themselves," CFHP
The Natal Naturopath, "8 Essential Self Care Tips For New Mums," The Natal Naturopath
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